SOMEONE ASKED: What (else) do you think while public speaking? Great question! I couldn’t resist answering this . . .
Maybe you don’t know this,
In the world of Public Speaker training the common theory is to ‘empty your mind of distractions’ and only focus on what your going to say (having a mental image of the outline of your talk and being in the story re-living it).
If only this were true!
We will never empty our mind, which is why we need to train to deal with what comes up, especially at the moment we go to speak (when everything goes deadly quite and all we hear is our inner dialogue), during our speech (inner critique of everything occurring), and after we finished and perhaps are speaking to the audience members (flooded with internal questions).
The truth is,
We all have an internal voice. It is that survival-mechanism that assesses everything, and makes critical assessments (judgements) such as: is that good or is that bad, is this right or is this wrong . . . “Did they just look at me funny?” “I wonder if I said the right thing” “Where’s that high pitched noise coming from?” “Why can’t they stop talking while Im talking, it’s hard to concentrate on what I need to say, please just be quite while Im talking!” etc etc etc and infinitum
Professional Speakers know this . . .
This inner dialogue occurs at the same time as we recall our speech and speak it. Professional Pubic Speakers know that there’s a 3 way conversation going on when we’re delivering a speech.
Do, how do you manage that?
Here, the key is to not pay significance to our inner critical voice when it brings us negative information such as “I just stuffed that up!” and attach ourselves to it, taking us down the over-critical rabbit hole. Or distracted and loose our place in recalling our speech by internal thoughts such as ” it’s hard to concentrate on what I need to say while they’re talking!”
INSTEAD immediately refrain to a statement that supports you in the situation. In the case of “I just stuffed up!”: “They don’t know I stuffed it up, Im doing fine, keep going, you’ve got this”
As a speaker, you become skilled at and well rehearsed in managing these thoughts in your favour.
Being a Great Communicator or Public Speaker is ALL THE ABOUT PRACTICE because anyone can go from nervous about speaking “Will they find me interesting?” to excited about sharing the gift of your message “Let me share this with them”
Isn’t it Time to Radically Transform Your Fear of Public Speaking!
Grab Your FREE Workshop now